I’ve never liked the term “I am too busy”; it felt fake or dishonest. “Busy” for me implies a loss of power and responsibility. “Busy” feels like something that happens to you.
So… what if this whole time, you never were busy? What if this whole time, you were making choices relative to your time?
I recently started experimenting using a different wording: “I am choosing to use my time in …” or “I have allocated a lot of time towards these activities.”
This gentle reframing is empowering: “Wait! I am always in control of allocating my time!”
What I love about the “reframing of busy” is that it makes you present in every single moment. I believe that this gives us a key to have a more complete control of our lives – even if that doesn’t appear to be the case.
So when someone asks me “Oh wow! You must be so busy with everything you have going on?” What I try to answer is: “Actually, I’m never busy! I have chosen to spend a LOT of time on (say) my business.” This could lead me to other reflections: “Hmm. I may consider reducing the amount of time I spend on my business. There other important things that I want to choose to spend time on.”
A very different experience!
On a final note, I am not going to pretend that I don’t get overwhelmed or overburdened! Quite the contrary, we all experience that. The blog is to share this new experiment that I believe to be quite useful!
So that’s it folks. If you find this interesting try it out and please let me know how it works out for you. As usual, please leave comments, let me know what you think!
ps. A shout out to my good friend Anouk, who helped me with this experiment. I very much value our friendship
ps2. Thanks to Brenna for the suggestion on the title!
ps3. I just discovered “meme generator” to create images for content.